WHY FEMINISM SHOULDN'T BE ABOUT EQUALITY. ALONE.
Feminism is defined, at least in dictionary dot com, as "the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men". The very fact that the here benchmark for dignity becomes a 'man' and the objective of the movement to obtain the same rights as 'his' seems to preempt any morality and cause associated with those rights. So just imagine, if simply because in a society there existed polygyny (man marrying multiple women), without thinking of whether it was a socially healthy institution, and instead of may be denouncing the same, the movement simply started demanding polyandry (woman marrying multiple men). The sad thing about wanting to be equal to someone is that you lose the very basis for self-identity and self-respect.
The reason to demand a right should not be because others are getting it too. It should instead be for the larger good, the logic behind the movement should be rooted in a deep belief that it is inherently positive for the society as a whole rather than being rooted in a 'me too' kind of argument (which I feel is the case in so many feminist movements these days).
The weird thing about women empowerment as I often see in popular media is that they want to be a part of somewhat contradictory worlds. They yearn to be treated like princesses and yearn to be an object of desire and are slaves to public attention - all this while they want to join the empowerment bandwagon. Feminism has become like that popular t-shirt which many wear, but few 'live'.
Women want to fart, because men do it shamelessly. Women want to smoke, because men do it proudly. Women want to 'abort', because men are saved from the 'travesty' in their career. Women want short hair, because men have them too. Women want to be promiscuous because men are getting away with it. Someone tell me, where is the originality of character and real freedom in here? Aren't women merely moving from one kind of slavery to another? From a slavery of being prevented from some things to a slavery of limiting their demands to things that aren't inherently worth fighting for?
Is the vision of feminism merely to be like the men? Isn't that pretty narrow and unoriginal? It is sort of like the wannabe behavior, a peer pressure of sorts, which is driven not so much from inner desire, but from imitation and with complete disregard to what's in it for all of us in the end.
Author: Silky Agarwal
Author: Silky Agarwal